5 Things Your Mom Couldn’t Teach You About Online Dating
It’s a digital world and the rules have changed
Mom might have been there through all of your relationship heartbreak and happiness, but there are some things in life that even she can't help with. Here are the 5 most important lessons in dating that we had to learn all on our own.
1. It's okay to pay for it
No, not Pretty Woman style. Paying for an online dating service.
While there are plenty of free dating sites and apps out there, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, you should consider joining a serious site. When it comes to online dating, you get what you pay for. For example, Zoosk studies users’ behavior and interests in order to suggest compatible matches on a daily basis. Sure, you can continue swiping for days, but to find someone you have a high chance of being truly compatible with, paid dating sites are the way to go.
2. Matchmakers are cool
If mom had suggested a matchmaker, our first reaction would have been a strong, “no way.”
However, today’s matchmaking has evolved. With the online dating pool growing larger every year, the options are seemingly endless.
Using an online dating service with matchmaking capabilities can help narrow down the options and match you with someone you’re actually interested in.
3. Play games
Be straightforward about what you want and try playing games. Sound like an oxymoron? It doesn’t have to be. With so many dating sites creating new and exciting features, you can literally play games on a dating app to help you find a match. Games can help break the ice and keep the vibe relaxed.
EliteSingles, for example, offers “Have You Met.” This game connects users who may not have otherwise met through daily matches.
4. Judge a book by its cover
Sure, mom always said, “don’t judge a book by it’s cover” - so what happens when the very basis of dating relies on our ability to judge strangers based on a few photos and short sentences? Will you swipe right or left for Brian, 27 with frosted tips and a thin mustache? With online dating quickly becoming one of the most common ways for couples to meet, the rules have changed. To meet the right person, you need to become an expert in quick judgement. Take the time to map out the top qualities you are seeking in a partner. Stick to this list and make sure that when you reach someone’s profile, you read it and don't just linger on the photo.
5. It's okay to say no
Mom always says to give everyone a chance. You never know who will surprise you.
However, with online dating it’s okay to be selective. Dating fatigue is real and saying yes to every date will only lead to exhaustion. Save your time and energy for the ones who are worth it.
Whether you're just getting started or already using some of the top dating sites, keep at it.
Take a deep breath, put yourself out there, and forgive your mom for not having all of the answers.