Best Date Ideas (For Every Commitment Level)
By Laurel House
A first date activity is very different from a 3rd date. And then there’s the friend who you want to be more. What do you do with them? Here’s what… based on date type and commitment level.
Friends Who You'd Like To Have Benefits With
Get their heart rate up
If you want to turn a friend into one with benefits, create a little friendly competition. It’s been shown that people who work out together feel more chemistry towards each other thanks to the release of sweat-induced endorphins. Challenge your pal to a game of pool, ping pong, shuffleboard, or darts, then get your flirt on.
Induce fear and provide comfort
It might sound like an ominous outing, but beautiful cemeteries can be seriously romantic. So why is it great for a friends into benefits date? If she gets freaked out you can grab her hand, hold her, and make your move.
Suck it down
It’s not just the aphrodisiac effects of oysters, it’s the visual. You put your mouth on this briny, moist little packet and suck down the juices. Forget happy hour, if you want to seduce a friend into giving you a few benefits, head to your favorite oyster bar.
Show your soft side
Transform a friend into one with benefits by showing your vulnerable side, the side of you that few get to see, but that truly makes you lovable. Yes, it’s scary, as you might view vulnerability as weakness. But while we are attracted to strength and confidence, we fall in love with “weakness" and vulnerability. If there’s a place that you privately go to think, regain balance, or “find yourself", go there! Then express the emotional importance of it and let your friend truly “see" you - the real you behind the LA façade.
Test your ice cream compatibility
What does your ice cream preference say about you? Are you two a match, or do your flavor preferences clash? According to the eCreamery ice cream test, cookie dough lovers are ambitious, coffee lovers are dramatic, rainbow sherbet lovers are more pessimistic, mint lovers are frugal, chocolate lovers are flirtatious, and vanilla lovers are, interestingly… colorful. Go to your favorite ice cream shop and see what it says about each other. Up the sexual anty by ordering a cone and sweeping your tongue around and round, showing off your oral skills.
First Online Date
The first date can be stressful. Particularly if you didn’t adequately pre-qualify - which automatically sets you up for an increased chance of sitting across from your date and knowing within seconds that you’re not a match. Instead of going to happy hour or some forgettable restaurant, make an impact and maybe even a memory with one of these first date ideas:
Don’t put any thought into it
The purpose of the first date is to get to know each other’s many facets. Food says a lot about a person. Not just their palate preferences, but also the personality. Find a local upscale food court or marketplace-style hotspot that offers a variety of food options so that you both can pick and eat the preference that you’re in the mood for. Not to mention that it takes away the guesswork of picking the perfect date destination since this is an array of destinations in one. In other words, you don’t have to put any thought into where you go, just go.
Go house hunting
For ugly eaters or those who get grossed out by eating and talking, skip the meal and instead take an open house tour of your area. No, it’s not about skipping ahead to buying a home together, instead you will be exploring your design side. Are you a fan of contemporary architecture, ocean views, secret gardens, or maybe you want to check out castles, then go to Redfin.com, input your search criteria, and you will get a map of awesome open houses catered to your style. After all, a first date isn’t just about chemistry, it’s about seeing if you could possibly have a future together. If your design tastes are completely different, a future together might not be in your future. May as well find out now!
Booze it up at Brunch
Generally, anything but an evening date is unacceptable. But a boozy brunch is the exception. Make reservations at a brunch spot that serves bottomless (enter something alcoholic here). Never ending pancakes are great, too!
The third date is sometimes known as the sex date. It’s also the first time that it’s appropriate for the women to pay - but not by putting down a credit card at a restaurant (that’s the man’s job). She can pay in a more interesting way. Like making dinner (think with your other head)! The third date is also when things get more real. You stop talking about superficial stuff and start delving into vulnerability. You might not be on your best behavior, because you have dropped the façade and you’re finally presenting a more authentic you. Now here’s what to do:
Ladies… it’s your turn to pitch in
Because men must pay on the first date, and, truly, it’s a masculine thing to whip out a credit card and place it on a table at dinner, but you’re a chick and you want to chip in without taking on the manly role, so make him dinner. Ingredients can cost some serious cash, not to mention the time and effort it takes to prepare a nice meal. And a dinner at home gives a glimpse of what real life looks like together as a couple.
Make an “I’m a Keeper" impression
If you want to change up your dates from dinners out to more intimate evenings in, but you can’t cook, instead of doing take out or ordering in, put some effort into your food selection by ordering your date’s favorite dish in the country! A NY strip… from NY, lobster rolls from Maine, Philly Cheese Steak from Philadelphia, or any other location specific favorite can be overnighted from ------. Now, that’s how you make an “I’m a keeper" impression.
Have a pizza-off (or any of your favorite dishes… off)
If you two have debated which spot serves the best thin crust pizza, makes the most authentic burritos, bakes the perfect cupcakes, or rolls addictive sushi, then put your favorites to the test by ordering from three different spots and having a blind taste test at your place. It’s a fun and different way to eat while getting turned on by your playfully competitive spirits.
Regardless of the date commitment level, put some effort into it and no matter where you go it will be a date to remember.
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