Famous Stars Who've Tried Online Dating
By Erika Ettin
What do all of these TV and movie stars have in common? While perhaps they’ve all been to awards shows and had many adoring fans (and kept me up too late watching them on many an occasion), that’s not what I’m referring to here. What I’m going for has nothing to do with which station you can find them on. Instead, all of these stars have tried online dating.
Martha Stewart’s highly publicized match.com profile in 2013 brought online dating into the mainstream, if you didn’t already consider it to be there. She was so open about looking for love—and looking for love after 70—which is all too often a taboo subject. She posted her real photos (even crowdsourced people’s favorites) and wrote very genuinely. Below is an excerpt from her profile:
… After recently writing and publishing my book, “Living the Good Long Life,” I was reminded how central good relationships are to happiness and longevity.
Here’s how I’d define myself: Curious about everything. Love learning. An adventurous spirit. I’m told that I’m a specific person… here’s what I know I appreciate in a man: Someone who’s intelligent, established, and curious; and who relishes adventure and new experiences as much as I do. Someone who can teach me new things. A lover of animals, grandchildren, and the outdoors. Young at heart.
This is not a bad profile by any means, but I do have a few pointers. To start, the profile is a bit generic. She loves “learning,” which could refer to any number of things. What do you like to learn? She also uses a few empty adjectives, like “curious” and “specific.”
This is where the concept of “show don’t tell” comes into play. How are you curious and specific? Her description of what she’s looking for in a partner, though, is right on point. Given that most of us know her story, I might even recommend poking fun at herself by saying something like, “…and who relishes adventure and new experiences as much as I do… jail anyone?”
This Tinder profile makes me smile. She doesn’t rest on her laurels because she’s famous (despite the link to her Instagram account with the Shape Magazine cover prominently displayed). She posts casual, candid photos, which I appreciate because she’s just being herself. That’s much more appealing than a glamour shot any day. I have no doubt many men wanted to “get pizza” with her. Heck, I’d want to!
Just like with Hilary Duff, Andy Cohen, the Bravo big kahuna, doesn’t put on airs on Tinder. He’s just himself—a nice Jewish boy looking for a nice (Jewish?) boy. He even said, “I have no shame in my game. I’m there, I’m swiping.” Andy shows us that not only is online dating for the masses, but it doesn’t matter your status, wealth, or sexual orientation.
Deborah Ann Woll
I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not an HBO watcher, but Deborah Ann Woll is a star on the network’s TV show True Blood. She has publicly stated that she met her long-time love E.J. Scott on match.com when she joined in 2007. She was ahead of the curve—nice work! She also uses her celebrity status to bring awareness to a rare eye condition that E.J. has called choroideremia that eventually results in blindness. While I don’t have a copy of her profile, no doubt it was good because IT WORKED.
I have many clients who come to me scared to do online dating because, God forbid, someone should see them on there. Remember, if someone sees you, then he or she is on there, too. And there is nothing wrong with using all of your resources to find that special someone. In fact, it’s encouraged. These celebrities were clicking and swiping proudly, and I want that for all of you, too.
Think you’re ready to get the online dating process started? Find the right site for you and let’s get going!