5 Ways to Show You’re Committed on the Third Date
By Top10BestDatingSites Staff
You're already well on your way to falling in love - but how can you make sure that your new companion feels the same way? After the third date, you might transition from casual dating to a budding relationship, or it might also to be time to move on for the both of you. Follow some of the following third date advice for Christians to make sure that you're on the right path towards love.
1. Begin the Date With a Thoughtful Gift
For most people, the first and second dates are a little too early to be giving anything but casual gifts. You still don't want to be overly extravagant, but a thoughtful gift can go a long way towards showing your date that you're both committed and interested - not just casually dating. As Jesus said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ and this is one act of kindness which can bring a couple much closer quickly. If you're out of gift ideas, load up your date's profile and try to find something unique that matches their interests. On sites like Zoosk, you can look through the music and movies they're interested in to find the perfect gift for them. Otherwise, try to think back to some of your earlier conversations, your date must have talked about some hobbies, favorite music and more. The key component to a thoughtful gift is the "thought" portion. And hey, don’t forget to write a card! A meaningful one which can describe in just a few sentences how great and exciting seeing each other has been so far.
2. Try Out an Activity, Rather Than a Date-Date
Dinner and a movie are classic dates... for a little further down the line. At this point in the relationship, you want to go a little deeper and show your date who you really are. You've probably already talked quite a bit about yourselves, and you don't want the conversation to lull or get boring. Hiking, taking a class together or even going through a small walking tour are great ways to show your date how you deal with your environment -- and with other people. And that's very important when deciding whether someone wants to continue a relationship. You could also try a Christian activity such as volunteering or bible study, which is both fulfilling and incredibly personal, a great way to show your date how important your Christian values are to you.
3. Share More About Your Life and Surroundings
Being in a relationship isn't just about being with someone; if it was, more relationships would succeed right off the bat. It's also about, to some extent, being involved in their life. While it's a little too early to meet their parents, a third date is still a good time to introduce one or two of your friends, take your date to your favorite spot or share a hobby that you really enjoy. Why not go to church together, and introduce your date to your pastor or your church family? This will show your date that you're truly interested in sharing yourself with them. In a way, it’s a great test to really understand if you’re comfortable with your date at your natural environment. On the flip side, you can ask your date to do the same - share their church or a part of their life with you.
4. Make It Romantic and Just be Yourself
Let's be honest, most third date tips for guys and gals alike are aimed at getting physical. But if you're looking for a long-term relationship on a site like match.com, you're probably not looking for a fling -- especially when you're looking for third date advice for Christians. On a third date, you need to walk a thin line between romantic and respectful. You need to make sure that your date understands that you are interested in them and physically attracted to them,, but you also don't want them to think that you're just in it for a fling. Romance can be truly respectful and yet still show that your feelings are far from platonic. As it says in the Song of Solomon “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine..” So take some time at the end of the date to take a long, romantic walk or just sit at a park over a glass of wine. If your entire date is something you might do with your best friend, you've probably gone astray.
5. Don’t Forget the Follow Up
At the end of the third date, a thoughtful message can go a long way. Don't forget that your date is probably a bit insecure as well; wondering whether or not they gave you the right impression. Give them a call - or, these days, text - when you get home that night and tell them how much you enjoyed spending time with them. Let them know that you had a great time and want to get to know them, that you just have this great feeling about the relationship. You'll learn a lot about how they feel through their response.
By the third date, you should already have a pretty good feel for what you're both looking for – and whether you're both right for each other. Don't be afraid to lay all of your cards on the table and be honest, and don't be discouraged if it doesn't work out. Remember: if it's meant to be, you'll know it, you’ll feel it and it will be mutual. Otherwise, take a small break, dust off your Christian Mingle profile, and continue your pursuit of your soul mate.