4 Rules for Online Dating Success During the Holidays


The holiday season is prime time for online dating. New sign ups surge between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day, as millions head to dating sites looking for someone to get through all that turkey and eggnog with.

So take advantage of this swell of singles and up your chances of finding love during the holidays with our 4 must-follow rules for dating success.

1. Know where to go

Being on the wrong dating site is a bit like dancing the night away at a really great holiday party - except the cocktails are virgin and the DJ is spinning Vanilla Ice all night long and you look around and suddenly realize everyone is an accountant. Yes, all the elements are there  - eligible singles, an open invitation to initiate - but unless they fit what you’re looking for, the experience won’t be that great. 

Think about what you want in a dating site, what hasn’t worked in the past, and how to best set yourself up to find your person - and then sign up to the one that fits most of what you’re after. 

If you’re looking for a popular site but hate swiping, try Zoosk​. 

Zoosk's Behavioral Matching gets to know your likes and dislikes and offers matches accordingly. It’s designed to gauge your own personality, and what you’re looking for, and then match you with someone you’d mesh well with.

If you'd rather someone else do the matching give EliteSingles a try. The site sends 3-7 daily matches, based on a personality quiz completed at sign up. The limited number of matches changes the entire online dating experience and turns it from a giant meat market to a more thoughtful matching process. 

2. Learn to say yes

The holiday season is the perfect time to get out of your comfort zone and try new things. Say yes to someone you might’ve initially passed on, send the first message or switch up dinner and drinks for a stroll through the park.

Take advantage of your vacation time, embrace the holiday cheer around you and open yourself up to different opportunities. As cheesy as it sounds, the best things really do happen outside your comfort zone.

3. Switch it up

You’ve been on OKCupid for 6 months and it hasn’t been awful but it hasn’t really worked they way you were hoping either.

So, switch it up.

Try a new site, like Match - a good if you're seeking more substance than what other dating sites offer - or add some new info to your current dating profile. Even just switching out some older photos will breathe fresh air into the whole dating process, which can help a lot if you’re experiencing dating fatigue.

4. Out with the old in with the new

It’s almost the new year and that usually means taking stock of the past 12 months and looking ahead. So get rid of nagging vices, extinguish old flames, and put yourself into a more positive head space.

New year, new you, right?

Release your inhibitions, take charge of your life and get out there and make things come to you. And when they do come to you, take the reigns and embrace it all.

Because finding love online isn’t for a select few - it’s been proven time and again to be one of the best ways to meet people and form long lasting relationships. It’s all about how you approach it, and making it work for you.

So this holiday season take a new approach to online dating. And if you need a little more help getting started, we’re here for you. Check out our reviews of the best dating sites around and see who’s out there. 

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