6 Ways To Meet Way More Interesting Men Online
Even with the unlimited options that online dating offers, so many women find themselves meeting the same kind of unimpressive men online.
We’re here to tell you - you deserve better than late night messages that never lead anywhere.
You deserve better than a collection of first dates that blend into one colorless memory of stale conversations with guys whose faces you can’t even recall.
You shouldn't have to fill your contact list with guys your friends and you have nicknamed, because why bother using real names if it probably won’t move past date #2 (My last 3 were “The Magician,” “Gingy Jeff” and “Fedora Dude”).
You deserve better dating - with our 6 tips to help you meet more interesting men online.
1. Get rid of (most of) your filters
Every woman has picked up some deal breakers and non-negotiables while wading through the choppy dating pool of life.
It’s good to have an idea of what you want in a partner. And filters on dating sites exist for a reason - without any way to sort through the crowd, the overload of options would be overwhelming enough for even Charlie Sheen to log off.
Instead, try to limit yourself to 3 deal breakers - that’s all. Anything more and you’ll likely end up passing on some pretty great men because of qualities which you only perceive to be issues.
Leave yourself open to the unexpected - because that’s what dating is all about.
2. Lead with your personality - and weed out the boring ones
Saying “hi”, or “what’s up?” isn’t a great way to get a conversation going online, and, somehow, we exchange these same dull conversations every day (WHY?!).
I’m all for putting your personality out there right from the start. Most people - especially when trying to attract a member of the opposite sex - need some time before they feel comfortable enough to be themselves.
But if you’re, say, sarcastic and irreverent, and want to find a guy with a personality to match, don’t hide that part of yourself.
Say the first thing that comes to your mind, not what you think he’ll want to hear. If he responds, and fun banter ensues, you know you’ve struck gold. And if not, you’ve just saved yourself from a mediocre date with a guy whose name you probably wouldn’t have remembered in a couple of weeks anyway.
3. Try a new dating site
If you feel like you’ve exhausted all the options on the dating site you’re using - there’s no better time to try a new one. Different sites attract different people, so don’t limit yourself.
Zoosk is a good option if you’re looking for a more popular site that’s geared towards the relationship-focused. Its Behavioral Matchmaking gets to know your habits - likes and dislikes - and offers matches accordingly. It’s designed to gauge your own personality, and what you’re looking for, and then match you with someone you’d mesh well with.
Or try a more niche site like Elite Singles. The dating pool on the site is made up of career-driven daters (80% are 30+ and university grads) looking for something serious. And instead of endlessly swiping, singles receive daily matches based on an in-depth personality quiz that’s completed upon sign up, adding a level of thoughtfulness to the usual random nature of dating sites.
4. If you’re not sure - give them a chance!
We’re so quick to dismiss people before we’ve really gotten to know them.
If you go on a first date and you’re not too sure or you didn’t feel any sparks - ALWAYS go on a second date. Chemistry often takes time to build, and people can be shy when they’re meeting someone for the first time.
5. Expand your interests
No man should be the center of your universe - and he doesn’t want to be dealing with that kind of neediness or pressure either.
You know what’s sexy?
Having your own life!
Start by expanding your interests today. Take a new class, talk to someone new, find and explore your passions… these are all great ways to develop new layers within yourself, which will help you to meet and attract new and interesting people from all walks of life.
6. Master an abundance mindset
You’ve gotta believe that there are plenty of kind, interesting, and lovable guys out there who want to date you, before you’ll find one. And I promise you, there are!
Once you realize there’s an abundance of love to go around, and that you are worthy of love - you’ll find it flows to you much more freely.
And if you’re looking for a dating site that does it better, give Zoosk a try. It just might be the key to making online dating work for you.