8 Tips on Finding Love Online as Seen on TV
It may have taken Ted Mosby 9 seasons of How I Met Your Mother to find his true love, but it doesn’t have to be so hard for you. Here are 8 lessons in love, taught by the characters of our favorite TV sitcoms.
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1 - Live in the moment
And also because, as we learn from Ted Mosby’s painfully long journey to find love, lingering in the memories of past relationships or daydreaming of a grandiose future wedding will not help you build a successful relationship today.
By being present in the every day you allow yourself to be open to new people and new experiences.
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2 - Stay positive
So you may have met some creeps or maybe the guy you really wanted to meet never messaged back. Don't get hung up on small failures and instead choose to be more like Liz Lemon and recognize the little successes.
Remain positive in your outlook to attract more good vibes.
3 - Be realistic
If you’re waiting around for a prince to ride in on horseback and sweep you away, you will probably end up waiting forever.
Listen to Rainbow’s desperate plea to her kids in Black-ish and be real about your expectations. This will allow you to find someone really good for you.
4 - But don’t settle
We wouldn’t suggest taking all of Chris Traeger’s advice, but when it comes to dating, we might have a thing or two to learn from the guy who ended up with Anne.
Remember, being realistic doesn't mean you have to settle.
Think about the characteristics that are important to you in a potential partner and make the distinction between deal breakers and preferences.
Sure, if you’re looking for someone driven and passionate, then a 40 year old living with their parents probably won’t make the cut. But if you’re hoping to meet someone who loves to surf and instead find someone who likes to run and enjoys the beach, you should probably give them a chance.
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Trying tools like this one is an important way to make sure you are balancing expectations and reality properly.
5 - Share your feelings
Sure, Cam may be known for over-sharing, but there is something to be said for being honest with yourself and others.
If you have been talking to someone on a dating site for a few weeks and feel that things are going well, say it. If you’re having a conversation with someone but don’t think you have enough in common to be worth going on a date, be open about it.
Hiding your feelings will only make dating harder and waste time in the long run.
Be straightforward and you will likely have healthier and happier relationships.
6 - But don’t get ahead of yourself
While it’s important to be open about how you feel and what you’re looking for, make sure not to jump into things too quickly and intensely.
Give yourself and your date enough time to get to know each other before declaring any strong emotions.
7 - Know when to move on
Don't spend time on someone who has displayed serious signs of disinterest.
A little game of hard-to-get is okay if that's your thing, but don't hang around waiting for someone who continuously cancels plans or simply ghosted.
Even if it's hard, even if time after time they come back with some excuse, take it from Raj, it's time to bounce.
8 - Find someone equally excited about you
Okay, maybe not quite as excited as Parker, Alec Baldwin’s one-episode character in Friends.
Still, that rush of excitement you get when you meet someone really awesome? Make sure it's mutual.
There's nothing worse than someone being total head over heels and realizing it's one sided - no matter which side you're on.
Find someone you genuinely want to be with and make sure they feel the same way before investing too much in the relationship.
Are you feeling totally motivated to get your love life on track?
If, like Mindy, you’ve been inspired, start by signing up for one of our recommended dating sites.
The person you’ve been looking for might already be waiting.