3 Women Share Their Tips For A First Date After Meeting Online

3 tips for how to go from messaging to real-life chemistry

In the digital age, we have endless romantic options at our fingertips 24/7.

But the transition from online messaging to real-life chemistry can be tricky. So we asked three different woman about their experience dating online and to tell us their top first-date tip for meeting a guy you’ve been talking to online.

Here’s what they had to say...

1. Christy, 28, Albuquerque

The first meeting isn’t really a date

“The first thing I learned dating on Zoosk was that the first time I met a guy I had been talking to online was only to check if there’s chemistry.

Sites like Zoosk already match you based on interests and preferences, but they can’t make chemistry happen. That’s what your first meeting should be about.

Decide on a casual place, with no expectations - I say meet outdoors or at a cafe.

This takes the pressure off you and gives you the chance to see what the vibe is like face-to-face before going on a “real” date.

My boyfriend and I were a perfect match on Zoosk, but it was meeting up before our first official date that made all the difference.”

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2. Lauren, 33, San Diego

Make the first move.

“Men like to take the lead, but surveys show that they admit a woman making the first move can be a major turn on.

If you ask a man you’re talking to online out for a drink, this shows him that you’re strong and confident. These are exactly the qualities you want a man to be looking for in a partner.

Don’t waste your time waiting for him to make a move, just do it.

From my experience, when you’re looking for a match with real potential, Match.com is where you need to be. Their matching algorithm is flawless - only matching with guys that could all be someone you’d actually want to date.

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3. Emma, 39, Boston

Men keep their options open - and so should you.

“Online dating is all about options.

Treat the first-date like an interview. Remember that no matter who you’re sitting across from, there will almost always be another man - maybe even smarter, better looking or more your type.

So ask questions, ask what’s important to you. No question should be off limits. 

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On Elite I learned that smart, good looking men aren’t going to settle - and neither should I. If a guy doesn’t measure up on the first date, move on.

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