A Wallflower's Wonder: The Best Dating Sites for Shy Girls and Guys

Because being shy doesn’t have to hold back your love life

If “wallflower” seems like a good word to describe you, then you would probably also say that dating isn’t your strong suit.

But luckily, being shy in the digital era has its advantages: online dating is now more popular than ever, and it’s a great way to meet people if you don’t love the idea of going out and talking to strangers.

Want to try your luck at love from the comfort of your couch, without the stress of talking to people you don’t know.

Then today is your day. Check out these sites for an introvert’s dream dating experience.


An introvert’s dream site, Zoosk gives you all the best of online dating.

There are 3 ways to match with other users, including your standard swiping through profiles and searching for users the old-fashioned way.

Zoosk also features Behavioral Matchmaking technology, which tracks your likes and dislikes on the site based on how you interact with different profiles, and sends you matches accordingly.

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Whether you’re interested in casual dating, a serious relationship, or even marriage, the possibilities are endless on Match.

The site includes daily hand-picked matches, a data-backed matching algorithm, and even a 6-month guarantee: if you don’t find love in your first half a year, the next one is on them.

And if you want to take your digital interactions to the real world without feeling the pressure of a one-on-one first date, then one of Match’s singles meet-ups is a great place to meet people.

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One of the best options for shy daters is EliteSingles. When you join the site, you take a pretty extensive personality quiz, which is then used to help match you with compatible users.

When you’ve been paired up with someone, you already know right off the bat that you two have plenty in common, whether it’s your hobbies and interests, religious inclination, or your dating expectations.

So no more worrying about chatting up total strangers - at least on EliteSingles you know you’re perfectly matched with someone for a reason.

Visit EliteSingles


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